April 22, 2016

A 16 years old girl was happy that the husband abandoned her



Asma in her home
Asma

 Arshad Ron/BBC
Asma was 16 when she was abandoned by her husband in a slum in Bangladesh.
She said that if people ask her about her husband, she would tell them that he is dead.
Her life according to her was hard before she was married but it didn't get any better afterwards, the husband used to hit her on the head with a knife, especially after he was drunk.

Asma was born on the coast, in Bhola, but floods destroyed the family home and the land they farmed. Like many others in the same position, they moved to Dhaka to find work and ended up in the Duaripara slum on the northern outskirts of the city. The area is home to more than 40,000 people, its alleyways lined with small tin shacks.
Asma's father is deaf and couldn't find work in the city, so her mother turned to begging. She hoped that once she got married, their suffering would ease. After they arrived in Dhaka, a 27-year-old man proposed to Asma, who was just 15 at the time and her parents agreed to the marriage.

 Girls are often seen as a burden in Bangladesh and are married off while they are still young.
 A couple of months after the wedding, Asma's husband started attacking her, and demanded a dowry  20,000 taka ($250, £180) and her family could not raise the money.
After five months together, the husband said he would leave and would not come back until Asma produced the cash.

Bangladesh has one of the highest rates of child marriage in the world. Legally, girls are not allowed to wed until they are 18, but one in five is married before her 15th birthday.
Asma moved back to her family and started looking for work. She had left school at the age of 10. A month she was employed a new garments factory. 
Asma leaving for work
Asma is now independent
She works as a thread cutter, working long hours for low pay. Her salary, about 3,000 taka ($38, £27) a month is enough to provide the family with three meals a day.

Asma sees herself is a man now. According to her, she does the same job a man does, run the household and thinking of herself as a man means that when she speaks, everyone listens. She thinks of herself as a person now and if Allah had made her a boy, she would have been so happy and then she would not have had to get married."

The pressure to find a husband has gone and as a result Asma feels liberated. She believes she has the freedom to choose her own future. In her statement, she said "I never want to marry again in my life," Being ambitious and focus, she said she would want to be a factory supervisor


And what do I say to you girl, well done for being courageous Bravo! At last you are free. Stand firm and never go back to that man again.

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