Asma |
She
said that if people ask her about her husband, she would tell them that he is
dead.
Her
life according to her was hard before she was married but it didn't get any
better afterwards, the husband used to hit her on the head with a knife,
especially after he was drunk.
Asma
was born on the coast, in Bhola, but floods destroyed the family home and the
land they farmed. Like many others in the same position, they moved to Dhaka to
find work and ended up in the Duaripara slum on the northern outskirts of the
city. The area is home to more than 40,000 people, its alleyways lined with
small tin shacks.
Asma's
father is deaf and couldn't find work in the city, so her mother turned to
begging. She hoped that once she got married, their suffering would ease. After
they arrived in Dhaka, a 27-year-old man proposed to Asma, who was just 15 at
the time and her parents agreed to the marriage.
Girls
are often seen as a burden in Bangladesh and are married off while they are
still young.
A couple of months after the wedding, Asma's
husband started attacking her, and demanded a dowry 20,000 taka ($250, £180)
and her family could not raise the money.
After
five months together, the husband said he would leave and would not come back
until Asma produced the cash.
Bangladesh
has one of the highest rates of child marriage in the world. Legally, girls are
not allowed to wed until they are 18, but one in five is married before her
15th birthday.
Asma
moved back to her family and started looking for work. She had left school at
the age of 10. A month she was employed a new garments factory.
Asma is now independent |
She
works as a thread cutter, working long hours for low pay. Her salary, about
3,000 taka ($38, £27) a month is enough to provide the family with three meals
a day.
Asma
sees herself is a man now. According to her, she does the same job a man does, run
the household and thinking of herself as a man means that when she speaks,
everyone listens. She thinks of herself as a person now and if Allah had made her
a boy, she would have been so happy and then she would not have had to get
married."
The
pressure to find a husband has gone and as a result Asma feels liberated. She
believes she has the freedom to choose her own future. In her statement, she
said "I never want to marry again
in my life," Being ambitious and focus, she said she would want to be
a factory supervisor
And
what do I say to you girl, well done for
being courageous Bravo! At last you are free. Stand firm and never go back to
that man again.
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